Many couples show up to therapy expecting to do “trust exercises” in the office. Some even ask where to find some type of “trust-building retreat.” But that’s not how it works.
As a psychotherapist and the author of “13 Things Mentally Strong Couples Don’t Do,” I’ve seen countless couples who want to establish deeper trust. Some of them have experienced broken trust, and others want to proactively grow closer.
Regardless, trust isn’t built through dramatic games or one-time events. It’s developed by showing up for each other in small but meaningful ways over and over again. And weekends are a prime opportunity to engage in activities that build deeper bonds.
Here’s what I see mentally strong couples do on the weekends to create rock-solid trust.
1. They spend intentional time apart
Healthy independence is one of the best ways to build trust. When you pursue your own interests — maybe you go for a solo run or your partner grabs coffee with a friend — you’re showing mutual trust. You both feel secure enough in your relationship to let each other grow individually.
Having space to recharge helps prevent resentment and boredom. You’re saying, “I trust you to be your own person, and I know you’ll come back.” When you reunite, you have more energy to share with your partner.
Partners who respect each other’s “me time” are more likely to thrive together over the long haul.
2. They create rituals together
Weekends can get busy, fast. That’s why couples who prioritize rituals — small, predictable things they can look forward to — tend to have stronger bonds. They provide stability and a sense of belonging.
A ritual doesn’t have to be fancy. Maybe it’s Saturday coffee on the porch, a Sunday evening walk, or a regular brunch at your favorite spot. Even a 15-minute morning crossword could help you stay connected.
The key is consistency. Each time you show up, you remind each other: “We can count on this. We can count on each other.” Trust is built as you show over and over again that the relationship is a priority for you.
3. They talk openly about feelings
It can be hard to be honest and open, even with the person you love most. So often, we hide the tough stuff because we don’t want other people to worry or judge us. But mental strength in relationships means sharing your inner world, and making it safe for your partner to do the same.
Talking about uncomfortable feelings — stress over work, disappointment after an argument, or embarrassment after failure — builds real intimacy. Sharing the more pleasant emotions, like excitement and hope, means you’re trusting your partner won’t crush your good spirits.
Saying, “I trust you with my feelings,” often leads to, “I trust you with my dreams and hopes.” Vulnerability is risky, but with a trusting partner, it can help you grow stronger as individuals and as a couple.
4. They make space for quality time
There’s a big difference between being near each other and truly connecting. Quality time matters, even if it takes effort to carve it out.
Mentally strong couples plan for it, even on busy weekends. Maybe it means having a tech-free meal, taking a walk in the park, or even working on a home improvement project. What matters is prioritizing and giving each other your undivided attention.
5. They show sincere appreciation
Over time, it’s easy to take even the best partners for granted. But mentally strong couples make a point to notice and voice the things they value about each other.
Appreciation fuels goodwill and reminds both partners that their efforts are seen. It might sound like, “Thank you for refilling my coffee cup,” or, “I’m proud of how you handled that conversation.”
In my practice, I’ve watched couples transform their dynamic just by making gratitude a regular habit. When people feel valued, they want to give even more to the relationship. Little compliments and words of thanks build a sense of security that’s key to lasting trust.
Amy Morin is a psychotherapist, clinical social worker, and host of the Mentally Stronger podcast. She is the author of several books including “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do.″ Her TEDx talk “The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong” is one of the most viewed talks of all time. Follow her on Instagram and LinkedIn.
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